A Daily Challenge for our Readers

To our dear readers of the Resilience Blog,

I would like to set you a challenge. I have noticed that many of my clients turn to quotes that truly touch them in times of crisis. Many people keep books of quotes or put them on their walls or put post-its all over the house. Below is a list of ten of my favourite quotes and they have helped me both in therapy and in my personal life. I ask you to go reflect on each quote individually across ten days; one quote per day. Reflect on the quote, journal your reflections and allow the words to really transform and sit with you. Each day go to the next quote. Enjoy some time put aside for yourself.

1.                                                     Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.

2. “I’m starting with the man in the mirror; I’m asking him to change his ways; and no message could have been any clearer; if you wanna make the world a better place; take a look at yourself, and then make a change” – Michael Jackson
3. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” –Mark Twain.
4. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed” – Michael Jordan.
5. “I’ve learnt that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear” – Nelson Mandela
6. “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love” – Mother Teresa

7. “Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habit.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny”
Lao Tzu (philosopher and poet of ancient China)

8. “Fake it till you become it” – Amy Cuddy (her fantastic TED talk below)

9. “Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment, it is the birthplace of everything we’re hungry for” – Brene Brown (her mind blowing TED talk below)

10. “THIS is how IT IS
NOT how it was,
NOT how it might have been,
NOT how it should have been.

Not how I wanted it to be.
Not how I hoped it would be.
Not how I planned would be.

But I accept that THIS is how IT IS.
Now I will get on with my life as best I can.”

– Psychologist Antony Kidman, given as advice for his daughter Nicole during separation from Tom Cruise.

All the best with your challenge!

Choose life

CHOOSE LIFE

Posted by Joe Alberts, Clinical Psychologist.

You are urged to choose life so that you and your children will live. (Deuteronomy 30:19)

Even though living life is becoming more challenging and you may feel increasingly out of control, you still retain CHOICE as the most important aspect of being human.  You choose moment by moment and create your reality through choice.  Choose then to make life affirming choices, consciously and mindfully.

See what great thinkers have to say:

I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.                                   Carl Jung  

You will either step forward into growth, or you will step back into safety.            Abraham Maslow    

“I worry about my age” Worry is self-attack. In truth, no one will hold your age against you if you don’t. Remember, you are never too old, to love, to smile, to give a compliment, to think positively. Be ageless today. Let your inner light shine today.                                                                                                                        Eckhart Tolle  

Whenever you fall, pick something up.                                                                     Oswald Avery

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.                                                                                                         Winston Churchill

You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savour it.                                                                                                                                       Dr Wayne Dyer

It’s not what happens to you that matters. It’s how you respond to what happens to you that makes a difference.                                                                                                  Zig Ziglar

If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.                                                                                                      Roald Dahl

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.                                                                                                                              Anon

Do just once what others say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their limitations again.                                                                                                       James Cook

In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.                        .                                                                                             Albert Camus 

Choosing life, even when faced with severe adversity, brings life 

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.                                                                                                                Elisabeth Kübler-Ross